Mo Caró từ Novoye Gankino, Samarskaya oblast', Russia

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05/06/2024

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2019-04-14 22:30

Tớ Là Họa Sĩ - Đồ Vật Thường Ngày Thư viện Sách hướng dẫn

Sách được viết bởi Bởi: Nhiều Tác Giả

This may be the last book about parenting I read for awhile; I wish it had been the first. Reading the introduction to this book resulted in the proverbial paradigm shift, right when I needed it. There is a massive contradiction between the long term goals we have for our children and what we need them to do in the here and now. A child isn't "good" because she sits quietly and does what she is told; she is good if she grows up to be a happy, kind, moral person. Right? And everyone knows that extrinsic rewards don't motivate people, at least not in the right way, so why do we depend on manipulating our children with rewards and punishments only? That might result in grown-ups who only do good things if they are rewarded, and only do bad things if they think they'll get caught. This book forces parents to think about their own parents, which is kinda revelation. And we have to avoid the, "oh, my parents did that and I turned out fine" thing - although I'm not exactly sure why. I just know that our parents would not like this book. Most people would find it, as the subtitle suggests, "a provocative challenge to the conventional wisdom about discipline"; it's a very different style of parenting, but it's all evidence-based and thoroughly researched, as opposed to the "conventional wisdom" of disciplining that often has no basis other than old wives tales. The problem, however, is that the book is extremely heavy at telling parents why everything they've been told to do is so very wrong, yet it is just as light on providing real-time advice or instruction on parenting alternatives. The alternatives supplied are thin and are not concrete at all; it's more like a completely different way of viewing parenting and discipline. It's not easy to adopt these changes, but just trying seems well worth it. Highly recommended for parents who want to raise empathetic critical thinkers, not little consumerist conformos.

Người đọc Mo Caró từ Novoye Gankino, Samarskaya oblast', Russia

Người dùng coi những cuốn sách này là thú vị nhất trong năm 2017-2018, ban biên tập của cổng thông tin "Thư viện Sách hướng dẫn" khuyến cáo rằng tất cả các độc giả sẽ làm quen với văn học này.