Lina Nazyrova từ Struha, Belarus

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05/20/2024

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Lina Nazyrova Sách lại (10)

2019-06-04 14:30

Nhạc Lý Cơ Bản (Tái Bản) Thư viện Sách hướng dẫn

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First, I have to admit that I read the "Teen" version of this book and while I agree with some of the authors ideas, others did not sit well with me. I totally agree with the idea of being a trusted, wise counselor. Over-protective, authoritarian and permissive parenting are some of the most destructive parenting styles seen today. I also believe that natural consequences and boundaries are great discipline and teaching tools for teens. The Love and Logic decision making process also prepares teens for real world decisions they will be making in the future. However, the entire parenting model seems to focus on external behavior modification and manipulation. Meaning, getting teens to comply or behave based on the parents control of the environment and using psychological ploys rather than instilling a sense of self-disciple in the teens. My question with this process is always what happens when the parents aren't present to use these ploys and what are we doing to change the internal character of the teens? It also seems that many of the tactics are simply a power struggle between parents and teens in which the parent exacerbates the teen into submission by using non-confrontation language. I also think the examples given in the book are totally contrived and not realistic. Furthermore, children learn from our actions and examples, not our words. Many of the recommended conflict resolution concepts in this book are one-liner snubs and simply ignoring the child rather than dealing with the situation? My wife, who has a degree in and teaches Early Childhood Education, agrees that many of the Love and Logic concepts are destructive and borderline emotionally abusive. In fact, in 1995 Cline was charged with various breaches of professional conduct by the Colorado State Board of Medical Examiners. The charges were related to Cline's supervision of Connell Watkins and Michael Orlans in their treatment of a minor child. I've come to the conclusion that the reason this book and parenting philosophy is so popular among parents and even endorsed by some schools, is because it makes the parents job easier. However, making our job as parents easier is not always what's best for our children. I would also like to meet some parents and their kids that used this parenting model throughout the child raising process to see the results. I challenge you to read other books along with Love and Logic to come to a "logical" conclusion. Check out The Epidemic by Robert Shaw, How Children Succeed by Paul Tough and Nutureshock by Bronson and Merryman before jumping on the Love and Logic bandwagon. I think this book joined with Grace Based Parenting and The Five Love Languages for Children would round out a parent and give them a starter parenting package that focuses on the external and the internal. This book by itself would not do it for me.

Người đọc Lina Nazyrova từ Struha, Belarus

Người dùng coi những cuốn sách này là thú vị nhất trong năm 2017-2018, ban biên tập của cổng thông tin "Thư viện Sách hướng dẫn" khuyến cáo rằng tất cả các độc giả sẽ làm quen với văn học này.